Best friend of the bride wants to back down from the wedding after bridezilla embarrasses her publicly, saying that ‘nobody would ever want to marry someone like her’

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Giuliana Tiscioni • Writer
Oct 20, 2026 5:15 PM EDT

Have you ever had the kind of so-called friend who needs to embarrass others to make themselves feel superior?

Unfortunately, there are a lot of people like that in the world, and we definitely can't grant them the title of 'friend.' And it's even sadder when those types of friendships happen between women. Seriously, we're already well into the 21st century, and some women are still trying to belittle each other? We are supposed to support one another. We already have enough to deal with in the world to have our own girlfriends trying to tear us down. 

Sadly, some people have such low self-esteem that they can't help but embarrass their friends to make themselves look cool in comparison. It's even worse when we're talking about someone who's getting married.

Some brides become bridezillas pretty quickly when they think that, just because it's their wedding day, they can treat everyone like trash. News flash: you can't. They are still your friends and family helping you throughout the entire process, and you can't go around yelling at them, demanding crazy things, or making them feel bad. 

I've helped plan my fair share of weddings. All my friends were a little anxious and nervous, but not once did they ever treat me poorly, make evil jokes at my expense, or ask any ridiculous request. They were the epitome of friendship and sisterly love, and they were the most grateful people on the planet toward all the friends who helped them. Which is why, if I had been in this girl's place and one of my friends made those comments about me, I would bail immediately. 

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  • AITA for refusing to attend my best friends wedding after she embarrassed me

    My best friend is getting married soon and Ive been supporting her through the whole planning process. Ive helped her shop for
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  • outfits, listened to her stress about arrangements and tried to be there whenever she needed me
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    The bride and her best friend.

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  • A few days ago we were having dinner with some mutual friends when she started joking about my dating life. At first I laughed along
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  • but then she made a comment about how nobody would ever want to marry someone like me
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  • The thing is, when you tell someone that no one would want to marry them, it's not really about the marriage or wedding per se. Many people don't even want ot marry! No, it's way worse. With a comment like that, you're basically telling someone that they are not worthy of being loved, that they don't deserve companionship, that they are destined to be alone; that they are either too much or too little to be partners with another person. Do you see how cruel that is? No one in their right mind would tell someone they love that they are not good enough, or that they are too much. And more importantly, a true friend would never think for a second to publicly use information from your private life as a weapon, much less if it's something that worries you or makes you feel insecure. 

  • Everyone laughed awkwardly and I felt really embarrassed. Later I told her that the joke genuinely hurt me, but she said I was being too sensitive and that she was just having fun
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  • Now Im not feeling comfortable attending the wedding, especially after she dismissed how I felt. She says Im trying to make her big day about myself and that a real best friend would put this aside
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  • I dont want to ruin her wedding but I also dont want to pretend nothing happened AITA for considering not going to her wedding?
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  • If it were me, I would definitely bail on her. Not only did the bride hurt and embarrass her, but she also dismissed her feelings and made everything about herself. Classic narcissistic behavior. 

    Those kinds of friends only bring problems and broken hearts. Trust me, I've broken up friendships over less, and it has nothing to do with not valuing friendship enough. Yes, friendship is important, and sometimes people have disagreements. But there's a difference between quarreling with a friend and them using you as food for their self-centered comedic act. I've had people in my life who didn't add up to it; they made it more complicated and problematic. I ended up cutting them off for my peace of mind, and that's the key part: a friend should be your refuge, not your enemy throwing stones at you. 

  • Foreign-Cow-1189 What's the deal with women and their wedding?? They believe an upcoming wedding makes them a Kardashian or something
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  • and can just be to everyone? What does you being upset about what she said have to do with her "Big Day"?
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  • If you don't attend the wedding your relationship is over and all the fall out involved in it. If you plan to pull away from her AFTER the wedding, then you
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  • should do it now and not attend the wedding. Let her learn that she can go too far. When people ask why, she can explain what she said and try to downsize it.
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  • Oncer93 Make a joke about her. See how she likes it.
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  • Crafty Weight_8140 She isn't your friend if she says sh like that.
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  • Kukka63 She's not at all your friend.... A true friend would never say crop like that and claim it's a joke. She's merrily using you as an unpaid wedding co-ordinator, let her enjoy her big day without you.
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  • Demonflyjizz Answer: NTA I wouldn't show up. The only reason she keeps you around as a "friend" is so she can put you down to make herself feel better. Dump her, friends don't do that to friends.
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  • Odd-End-1405 A REAL best friend would not purposely hurt and humiliate you in public.
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  • A single guest not attending a wedding does not "Ruin" it, Sounds like you put more into the relationship then she does. ΝΤΑ
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